The uniqueness and likability of you

lLiving with chronic depression or anxiety is not easy. I mean, it can take everything we have to get out of bed, and then comes a day of symptoms, frustration, and self-harm. But despite everything, believe it or not, our uniqueness and friendliness remain intact.

Here’s what I suggest: Make bird’s-eye observations of your engagement in your activities throughout the day.

Absolutely, living with emotional and mental health challenges can be a never-ending nightmare.

Even on a “good” day it can take great creativity and guts to navigate and survive.

That is a reality that the “normal” Joan or Joe could never understand.

Goodness is gone

It is not surprising that we are enthusiastic about plots, maneuvers, blows and dressing wounds. So much so that we lose the forest of self-worth for the trees.

And it’s not long before our perception of uniqueness and likeability is burned to the ground.

During the burning, everything becomes our fault. And feelings of fear, anxious avoidance, panic, tics, tremors, obsessions, compulsions—every torturous symptom imaginable—provide evidence that we simply aren’t worth much.

That’s sad.

A self-observation exercise

We cannot allow self-harm to continue. So, in an effort to give us back a positive sense of self, here’s something to play with…

Would you agree that each of us are independent units that live our lives moving in a variety of settings? Actually, if we observed ourselves from the outside that is what we would see.

But I don’t think we dare make that observation often enough, if ever. After all, in our minds, who wants to risk a detailed description of themselves?

A bird’s eye view

“Honestly, I don’t look as bad as I thought.”

Well, imagine watching a live stream of you being yourself all day. I prefer a bird’s eye view, directly from above, from the camera angle.

Actually, yes, I do.

How does it work

Here’s what I suggest: Make bird’s-eye observations of your engagement in your activities throughout the day. You can do it in the middle of what you’re doing or review a scene after the fact.

At the end of the day, maybe while you’re lying in bed, you record more footage. You may want to observe specific scenes.

An external and objective observer

It is important that you participate as an external and objective observer, without negative judgments. And editing is not allowed. For example, if you ran away as you approached an anxiety-provoking encounter, leave the scene as is.

Remember, it’s about observing him as he is and coming to appreciate his uniqueness and likability, all in the face of the self-harm you’ve become accustomed to.

And getting some acceptance would be an advantage.

By the way, you can’t tell me that there wouldn’t even be a part of a scene where you were satisfied with what you watched and smiled.

Come now.

Uniqueness and sympathy intact

Life in an area where emotional and mental health struggles are at breaking point can be unimaginably difficult. And that truth very often results in great damage to body, soul and self-esteem.

We can’t let that go unanswered… ever.

You may think that you are worthless, that you are weak, stupid, stupid, dirty, shameful, or whatever. Still, your uniqueness and likability remain intact, if you dare to observe.

It never fails…

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